When the helicopter was shot down, she suffered two broken arms, a broken finger, a gunshot wound in the back, and numerous other injuries. After regaining consciousness, she said her first thought was “Nobody’s ever died from pain.” Dr Cornum survived appalling treatment as a Prisoner of War and now leads character-building workshops in resilience. I am fortunate in having participated in her Resilience Training Instructor Courses, and as one of South Australia’s leading Positive Education schools, Investigator College is committed to the teaching of wellbeing and resilience strategies.
Resilient Thinking
Every moment of every day will not be perfect. We all need to accept this fact and develop positive coping skills to enable us to deal with anxiety and stress. The cultivation of gratitude plays a vital role here. As well as building optimism and positive emotions, gratitude is closely aligned with the development of vital social relationships.
As parents, it is easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what didn’t go well, how many spelling words our children got wrong, or ‘friendship fires’ with other students being reported the moment your child gets home.
We need to take the time to reflect on what actually went well, the words they spelt accurately, and positive interactions that have occurred. As adults we might list in our diaries each day, something that went well, a goal you achieved, why it went well, and how you or other people contributed to this success. I do this before leaving work at the end of the day.
Great benefits come from taking the time to look at your situation closely, and to write down or discuss what you are grateful for in your life. We might have had a bad experience, but let us not forget the good times, or the valued relationships, in our lives.
Making Meaning
When faced with adversity, or even an awkward situation, it is easy to fall in a heap and feel sorry for ourselves. Instead, we need to learn to reflect on the opportunities afforded by our circumstances. We can ask ourselves these questions.
- What else could this situation or experience mean?
- Can anything good come from it?
- Does it present any opportunities for me?
- What lessons can I learn and apply to my future actions?
- Is this an opportunity for me to reinforce my core values and beliefs?
- Did I develop any strengths as a result?
Adversity can sometimes bring people together and inspire others to live out their values.
Values-Based Goals
Even through tough times, we still have the power to influence our course through goal-setting. Try setting immediate, short-term and long-term goals. Consider possible obstacles and strategies to help overcome these. By sharing these goals you have made yourself more accountable and therefore more likely to achieve success. Being clear about what you value in life can make it easier to get back on track. For example, if you value good health and fitness, you might set yourself a regular walking goal, and achieving this can boost your self-respect immensely.
Mindfulness
During times of stress and adversity, mindfulness enables us to refocus on areas within our sphere of influence, and to take purposeful action. Too often we are so focused on the past that we forget to enjoy the present. Meditation can help here, and this can be as simple as closing your eyes for one minute and listening to your breathing or the sounds of your environment. Others may choose to focus on a beautiful South Coast view or even watching the clouds. Personally, I find the call of seagulls (which I can hear from my office) and the sound of waves lapping to be quite therapeutic. We seem to have an inordinate number of beautiful rainbows in the Victor Harbor district that can be good for this too!
During an emotional flurry, it helps if you can identify the aspects that you have control over, and ask, “What is important right now?” Reflect on your values and decide what it is that you want to stand for right now. We must also accept that there are some things that we cannot change, and focus our energy on areas where we can actually make a difference. Investigator students are becoming quite skilled in this area.
Kindness
Participating in acts of kindness has been shown to not only make the recipient feel good but, in times of adversity, it can also improve your own wellbeing and sense of character. It can strengthen relationships and connections to the community, as well as restore meaning and purpose to your life. The strong emphasis on service learning at Investigator College is an example of kindness.
The first African–American Congresswoman in the US, Shirley Anita Chisholm, once said, “Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth.” We gain so much from the contributions of others, so it makes sense that we should give back to this wonderful world – and it feels good.
Thank you!
Thank you for making the effort to attend College events this term. We have a fabulous community and spirits are high.
We are experiencing a groundswell of interest at the moment with many families realising that, in a turbulent world, providing a quality private school education is the best possible gift you can give to your children. Planning for 2024 is in progress and we are currently finalising subject choices, teaching appointments, budgets, special programs and classroom utilisation for next year.
Accordingly, I write to remind you that written notice of a minimum of 10 school weeks needs to be given to cancel an enrolment, and that failure to give the required notice will incur a fee equal to 10 weeks tuition fees.
These are exciting times at Investigator College and 2024 is shaping up to be our best year yet. Watch this space!
